Everyone is different when you get them one-on-one.
Of course seek discernment and ask God if you are in His will.
Ask Him to reveal characteristics that are pleasing to Him as well as reveal those things that are red flags, then proceed or walk away accordingly.
It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.
At the opposite extreme, there is “Faux Christian Dating”—in which young Christians have no idea what to do with dating, so they avoid it. “Hanging out” leads to all kinds of mixed feelings. Stop evaluating whether the new girl at church is hot enough and “low-maintenance” enough for your liking.
The purpose of dating is to identify a spouse with whom you can build a Christian marriage.
As such, dating should be treated more like an interview process.“Do you think Christian girls make dating too serious? “I need a buffer of at least five dates before I’m thinking of any future at all! What if you completely jettison the idea of finding your husband or wife via dating, at least for the first five dates?What if dating is about getting to know someone and gauging interest, not lifelong compatibility?“The secret,” he said, “is knowing how to handle a dating relationship so you know if the other person is worth marrying or he or she is honored in the breakup.” Unfortunately, it seems like many young singles struggle to figure out just how to handle dating–and I’m not the only one who’s noticed how weird the Christian dating scene can be.As my friend Lindsey, married and in her thirties, recently remarked, “I’m sure glad I wasn’t much of a Christian when I started dating my husband!For more information to help you navigate your way through the dating process, checkout these guidelines for Christian dating.